Dating in the dark followup
I forget what the excuse was, but it was some “togetherness” emergency – I had to go shopping with her for some trivial thing or other. In fact, that phrase – “I let her” – defined the majority of our relationship.
After the honeymoon period, where I was just astounded that I was having sex, our relationship became a matter of constant fighting, jealousy, guilt trips and having to justify myself on an almost daily basis.
She also didn’t care for them because it meant I was spending time with my friends and not with her (warning sign #2) – but this time she relented and .
When I look back at my bad old days, there’re a number of things that stand out as emblematic of who I was – the fear of letting go of a bad relationship because I didn’t think I could do any better, being unable to relax and enjoy my time with one woman because I couldn’t stop looking for the shoe to drop… But there is one very specific night that, to my mind, was one of the most representative of how bad things were.Seemingly nice dudes in quite esteemed careers asking to hook up in 24 hours and sending them naked pics of myself despite multiple times telling them that I didn’t want to.” As a male coach for smart, strong, successful women, I apologize on behalf of all men. But they really don’t get what it’s like to walk a mile in your shoes.I wrote about this in Finding the One Online extensively – what it’s like to be a woman dating online and how men need to up their games to connect.Hell, I just gave a TEDx talk about this very thing.Men scramble to approach women like rats chewing on a meaty chicken bone, and then wonder why women are so turned off by them.